<p>Most women have a great deal of difficulty understanding why their man would want to be cuckolded. That can make it difficult to actually bring your fantasy to life. That’s why I typically recommend trying to lay the groundwork before you go all out and simply request that your wife start fucking other people.</p><p>The idea is to introduce her to your arousal at the notion of someone else having sex with her. Again, you don’t just come out and say it. After all, showing is almost always more effective than telling. With that in mind, here are two simple ways you can do that.</p><p><strong>Dildo Play</strong></p><p>The idea should be clear: You penetrate your wife with a toy and admire how good it looks when another cock (even a plastic one) is filling her. The execution matters, though. It will almost certainly look hottest if you’re using a lifelike dildo (the ones shaped like cocks with thick heads, veins down the shaft, etc), but that’s not necessary. In fact, it’s probably better to start with something small if you haven’t done this kind of thing before.</p><p>It’s important that she be aroused before you start plunging a toy into her. A little foreplay or an erotic massage is a good way to get her there. It’s also important that you continue to pleasure her clit while you’re fucking her with a toy. Most women climax via clitoral stimulation, so you fucking her with a toy isn’t likely to get her off on its own.</p><p>You don’t have to do it the first time, but one of the keys here is to comment on how good it looks to watch the dildo fuck her. “This is so hot,” is a simple way to introduce that idea. “It’s so sexy fucking you like this,” or “I love watching you fuck this toy,” are decent bits of verbal play as well.</p><p>Please remember that this kind of play takes patience. You’re not going to fuck her with a toy one night and then get her to agree to cuckold you the next. It might take months or even years. If you’re in it for the long haul it shouldn’t matter.</p><p>Eventually the idea would be to have her use the dildo on herself while you watch. Once you get there, you can amp up the dirty talk a little. You can start talking about how hot it is to watch her get fucked by a big cock (especially if you’ve upgraded to a new dildo).</p><p>The basic notion, if it’s not clear, is to convince her that you’re genuinely turned on by watching another cock fuck her. Even better, you’re associating her pleasure with that idea. You both have orgasms while that notion is taking hold. With any luck, it will make her more open to the idea of cuckolding you.</p><p><strong>Dirty Talk About Ex-Boyfriends</strong></p><p>This is probably unwise to do out of the blue (unless you already know she’s a bit naughty and willing to talk about this kind of thing). Instead, it’s good to introduce after the dildo play has warmed her up a little.</p><p>The idea is pretty simple: You tell her that you’d find it really hot if she talked about the best sex she had with an ex-boyfriend (or ex-husband) while you masturbate together. This is far from fool proof, of course. Some women will be put off by the request. Some won’t understand why you’d want to do that. That’s why it’s best to bring it up after you’ve already enjoyed lots of the dildo play suggested above.</p><p>If she’s into it, then you’ve got the opening you need. As she talks about it, feel free to try and guide the conversation to an arousing place. When she says something that really turns you on, let her know. Feel free to interact with her, too. Kiss her as you’re talking dirty together. Play with her nipples. Do the things that turn her on.</p><p>Don’t be gross about it and try not to come off as too obsessive. For instance, if you keep asking her to talk about the size of his cock (like you’re obsessing about it) she may find that really off putting because she won’t really understand it (cock size is important but it’s not as important as most guys think it is).</p><p>As an offshoot of this, you can read erotic stories of hotwifing and cuckolding together. It’s best if the stories focus on the sex between the hotwife and her lover and less on the cuckold. It’s especially important to try and avoid any heavy humiliation stuff in the stories because she won’t understand that (at least at first).</p><p><strong>Please Be Patient</strong></p><p>I know I already mentioned this, but I’m going to say it again. The biggest mistake most cuckolds make is displaying a lack of patience. They get frustrated that their wife isn’t willing to get on board with their fantasy immediately and they end up pushing her away from it as a result.</p><p>You need to be patient. It might take years to get her to come around to your fantasy and you need to be okay with that. Part of that patience is appreciating what you have in the moment. If she’s willing to fuck a dildo and talk dirty about it, that’s a huge victory. It’s not quite cuckolding, but it’s at least a little bit of your fantasy. Instead of being frustrated that she’s not fucking someone else, be happy that she’s fucking a dildo.</p>